Whenever there is death, every culture has a space for mourning and respecting those who are no longer with us, and that’s as it should be. It’s good to remember those who gave us pleasure in our lives and even those who had a difficult time.
Sometimes the bereavement process can become unmanageable and you may need to seek help to cope and move forward in your life. Therapy can help that transition happen more smoothly.
This does not mean you will forget those who have died and even if for a short time, you do, that does not mean you have lost respect for their memory. Life needs to go on and you sometimes need help to remember the deceased fondly, with pleasure, learning to leave behind the pain of parting. This I see as respectful because it celebrates that life that you still have left.
There are things that we feel or think or remember about those who have died that cannot be shared with the people around you, so it sometimes helps to talk to a professional whose job it is to care. It is a great honour for a therapist for you to trust us to help you through the bereavement process.
Bereavement need not necessarily be a long, drawn-out, painful procedure, because with the right kind of help and care, the period of bereavement can be shortened and the time of fond remembering can arise.
One of the greatest honours that you can pay to those that have passed on is to be able to remember them with respect and fondly. If the relationship was difficult, that is not always possible but it helps to remember with peace and I can help you with that process.